Good evening all. I would like to announce that my wife is back home, after a three days work trip out of town. I know you are wondering, yes. I also agree with you that I have not be married for that long, so i must be suffering from something. This, is the longest my wife has been away. I travel a lot myself, when I do and am not with my wife….i get all busy with stuff. It’s very different when I am alone in the house.
If you are like me, and used to a routine that surrounds your wife, you will realize that you have become really comfortable with the way things are. Maybe you are imagining some things just work, or if they don’t she knows the answer as to why they are not working. How long you are going to be alive alone in that house depends on how you are going to handle things. But what if you are those guys, who like me have mastered everything but nothing?
Make a Call : She just left, and you realize that you need to do some laundry, you encourage yourself to first pass by the store to buy soap. When you arrive home, you look at the machine and want to throw everything inside. But that the button tells you wait, there is wool, mixed, quick wash e.t.c. Then the confusion gets real, see you have avoided making the call, so you go to look for the manual. You know, that book that comes with the machine when you buy it. That thing you have been seeing it lying around but today is the day you can’t see it. At some point, you give up, you seat quietly in the toilet with wet eyes and the voice says….please make the call.
Make Arrangements for dinner: There is no doubt that you love cooking, but you and me know that when a man is really good in the kitchen they use that to impress the lady. So for the next three days, there is no one to impress. All your hard labour in the kitchen will have to be appreciated by yourself and you are thinking it’s not worth the effort. So you call a few people who can go out of their way to accommodate your appetite. But remember you are the same person who moved on when you got married and today is the first time they are receiving your call after the wedding day. You end up getting the dinner, but you have to go through the shame.
Bachelors are also human: Many things change when you get married, especially in the bedroom. You stop sleeping like a bachelor and start spooning. It doesn’t matter how cold it is out there, the bed is always warm. You have your side of the bed she has hers. You have those romantic conversations….and sweet nothings before you fall asleep. Today is different, life reminds you that you are really lucky to have what you have, after all bachelors are as human as you are and you should learn to live like them….and sleep like them. The bed is cold again, you would have ironed it but there is no electricity. Once again darkness has covered your world, and has turned your light into dark.
Keep Hope alive: When she left she said she will be back after three days, you are hanging on those words. To you they are powerful, they are your future. So you have sharpened your counting skills, every new day bringing you closer. You may not have earned it, but you feel you deserve it. Then the day arrives, and you look at how you have done it……you make sure all things in the house are in order. The only thing you have managed to cook since she left the house was a cup of tea, and a cup of tea and a cup of tea. All the cups are clean.
She arrives in the house and compliments you on how you have kept the house in order, but you know you have played very safe. The clothes lie folded in the bathroom but apparently that’s not where they are supposed to be. Just like T’Challa she swings back to keep the house on the move. She helps you recover from the three day shock….with hugs and kisses, and just like a baby, you cling on her breasts….not letting go.
She has been gone for a few days, now you know how important she is.